Speaking as a Christian it is difficult for me to forgive others who do me wrong?

Speaking as Christian it is difficult and or takes me a long time to forgive others for what they've done to me. How can i become a better forgiver?|||i don't know what to tell you, except to pray about it. i tend to let things go right after they happen. i don't know for sure how i got to be this way...lol. i don't usually stay mad for long and don't really hold grudges. maybe that's it... i can't stand animosity and always try to resolve conflicts immediately. i tend to fret if i have angry feelings over something... and i hate that, so i give it to the Lord. the Bible teaches that we should pray for our enemies.





now, having said all that, i still struggle with forgiving the scum who murdered my brother-in-law. :(. it happened 10 years ago and even though i've prayed for him many times, sometimes those hateful feelings still surface. he's shown no remorse. i know that shouldn't matter, but he's such a skanky scumbag. he tried to grab a cop's gun after his guilty verdict. my husband said that was just so the guys in prison (who saw him on the news and knew he was coming to prison) would be afraid of him. maybe that's what it was. i don't know, he's an angry, vicious person who also threatened my husband in the courtroom. he was happy that he killed my brother-in-law. i know i'm wrong for feeling this way about him. maybe some day i won't feel this way anymore, but i don't want him to go to heaven. i want him to be punished eternally :(. sometimes i think i've forgiven him, and then i realize i haven't. it's hard.|||we're human. i'd avoid people who continually offend you. let god deal with them.


besides if they neve asked your forgiveness, why should you. just try not let it bother you or it will be a downer|||Mt 18:21-35


Parable of the Unmerciful Servant|||Dan l'chaf zchus - judge others favorably. There may be reasons you don't know that caused the person to act in a way you didn't like. And would you really judge yourself so harshly if you did the same thing?





That said, sometimes forgiveness isn't the right thing to do. Letting it go and moving on, sure, but forgiving, maybe not. However, I'm not a Chr-stian, so...the stuff at the beginning should help if you really apply it.|||You have two thousand years of support, so don't feel bad. Most wars and slaughter of innocents have been caused by Christians who believe they are right and everyone else is wrong. You can become a better forgiver by forgiving yourself first.